International Men’s day events in Mumbai

We, Protect India n Family Foundation, are a part of global group of NGOs and local self-help groups ((wherever Indian-NRI families live) and responsible Indian citizens who are concerned about the future of Indian families and hence our future as a Nation by and large. Our network is made up of like minded persons and NGOs who have dedicated their souls in bringing back the 'meaning' and happiness of "Family", back to at least(for a start) Indian families.

For this result we are trying to work on different fronts including Child rights for shared parenting (as per the welfare of the child, keeping its development as prime in our minds). You could see the website of our sister NGO, CRISP(Children’s Right Initiative for Shared Parenting) www.crisp-india.org for more on this front.

The next avenue that we are exploring is to change the mindset of public in general and hence higher authorities including law-makers, that 'Man' is not always the tormentor, he actually deserves a hug many a times for his selfless efforts for the upkeep of his family and for his dedicated loyalty and hard work which he makes for this Nation of ours, as we all can witness.

Many a times a ‘Man’ is not only denied of this well deserved 'reward' of a simple hug, but he is also brandished as a cruel, in-humane and an insensitive partner/player(by default) in any social setting(let alone familial situations). This is why we see people taking sides even without bothering to 'verify the facts of the specific situation', this bias is shockingly evident in cases when a man is accused of indiscretions/cruelty made out towards a woman (women)- he sometimes bears the burnt of being a 'Man' per se- due to his image been "Stereotyped", almost as that of a typically insensitive “Animal”!, almost a perfect animal, which only thinks just about pleasures of various kinds, and then Food(may be TV too comes as a strong ingredient in this imagery of a stereotypically consumerist 'Man').


This scenario, as many of you also would acknowledge, is far from the reality with respect to even the 'average' man living in our present day society, and is hence detrimental for the upkeep of our time-tested family system, which is by far the single most important factor which is almost single-handedly supporting India and stopping it from plunging into the abyss of unfathomable anarchy, unrest and thence total destruction. And this is a shocking trend, which if left unchecked, could eventually gobble up the entire great Indian population clean, in no time at all.


As a net result, men are seen to be losing their rights, and even denied of their emotional needs, such as their need, and right, of being there for their children, especially when they need a father in their most sensitive & critical developmental years. Even lets, for a minute, forget a father's need to see these days of his kid, to be a part of these days and experience a bit of joy, which is one among the few life-forces which sustains life and enthusiasm in most of us as, work horses, err …. Men.


Even in this case too, forgetting a Man’s need to be his kids, considering just the rights and need of children to have a balanced development, the situation would point itself towards the need for having a caring father around, along with its mother around a child, for its proper development as a responsible citizen of this good earth!.


Children need both parents (as far as either parent is not insane, or proves negative in their net influence over children’s development and psyche) for shaping up to those wonderful people they can become with proper nurturing and love from both parents(who needs to put aside their differences, how much ever the degree of differences they have between two of them).


Men’s day events

Protect Indian Family Foundation(PIFF), NGO, Mumbai (Member of the Save Indian Family (SIF) Network), are planning a Bike and Car rally on 19th November, 2008 (Proposed Time: 2.30 to 4.30 pm ).


This event is a part of an important campaign by Protect Indian Family, Mumbai and its associate NGOs in Delhi, Bangalore, Lucknow, Nagpur, Kolkata, Hyderabad(who are all conducting similar such events in conjunction to International men’s day) and several other NGOs and Local groups under the aegis of Save Indian Family Foundation umbrella group.


Brief details of the Vehicle Rally

We expect around 60 bikes and 20 cars to participate. The objective of this Rally will be to bring Awareness about the misuse of laws concerning families (IPC 498a, Domestic Violence Act, etc.), which wrecking many families in India and abroad (wherever Indians live). This is also to commemorate the international Men’s day, which falls on November 19th.


Following this vehicle rally, at the culmination point(Bandra Family Court), we will be submitting a Memorandum of our demands and concerns to the Principle Judge, Mumbai Family Court, Bandra, along with other relevant authorities.

Contact Persons: P.R.Gokul- 9322156141, M.R.Gupta – 9869323538
Proposed Route
City Civil/Session Court (Mayo Road) to Bandra Family Court

(Roads planned: Starting from ; Opp. City Civil Court on Karamvir Bhaurao Patil

Marg (Mayo Road) – Woudby Road – Capital Cinema – Nagar Chowk – D.N. Road

– Crowford Market – L.T. Road – Mohamed Ali Road – Sir. J.J. Road – N.M. Joshi

Road (Delisle Road) – Gokhale Road (North) – Lady Jamshetji Road – Mahim

Causeway – Western Express Highway – Kala Nagar – B.K.C. Family Court)

This event is being planned by Protect Indian Family (www.protectindianfamily.org), Mumbai, NGO-Member of Save Indian Family (www.saveindianfamily.org) & SIF’s Media Flagship- SIF Times (www.siftimes.com)


We hope that these efforts will go a long way in bringing back the tranquility at home, since charity begins at Home. And since home is the fountainhead of life force, lets nurture the tranquility in Indian families, to ultimately pave way for a stronger Nation. Looking forward to your cooperation and active participation.


Save Indian Family (SIF) is a strong team of dedicated families comprising of victims of "misuse of 498a and other Gender biased Women-Protection laws like Dowry Prohibition Act, Domestic Violence Act, etc.", including NRIs, Senior citizens who campaign and create awareness about gross injustice and abuse that happen in Indian Legal system. SIF has over 30 NGOs and 50,000 families as its members across the globe.


Protect Indian Family Foundation (PIFF), Mumbai is a member NGO of the SIF network, based in Mumbai, looking after related issues for entire Maharashtra and beyond.


Help-line Numbers:
Mumbai: 9869323538(M.R.Gupta), 9224335577, 9322156141(Rotating lines)
Delhi: 9810611534
Kolkata: 9830151555
Chennai: 9884607376
Hyderabad: 09848280354
Bangalore: 9845143724

Pune: 9923056460
More help-lines at: http://mynation.net/contact-us & http://www.savefamily.org/index.php?Itemid=65&option=com_content



Supported by :
www.saveindianfamily.org
www.mynation.net
www.savefamily.org
www.asha-kiran.org
www.sahanaindia.org
www.ghrs.in
www.forgottenwomen.org
www.protectindianfamily.org
www.mensday.in
www.antidowry.org
www.498a.org

Thanks
Protect Indian Family Foundation, Maharashtra
Mumbai Contacts: +91 9869323538, 9224335577, 9322156141,
Email: help@protectindianfamily.org | Web: www.protectindianfamily.org

Black March, on the 2nd Anniversary of Domestic Violence Act, Sunday, 26th October 2008

A “ Black March”, on the 2nd Anniversary of Domestic Violence Act, Sunday, 26th October 2008 - near Charni Road Chowpatti(Birla Kreeda Kendra to Wilson College), Mumbai, on 26th October 2008 from 5.00 pm to 7:00 pm. Please find the press release of this event and a 'memo to media' attached in this email.

This 'Black March' is an awareness(the general public and authorities need to know and acknowledge that no one is immune to this dangerous trend) cum protest event against the gender-biased and misuse-prone women-protection laws, especially the newly introduced Domestic Violence Act(Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act- ie. PWDVA) on its 2nd Anniversary date

The DV act came into force on 26th October 2006, and it was indeed a black day for Indian families, since it was one more nail in the coffin of the institution called marriage, due to its bias and propensity to be misused.

If the government really wanted domestic violence in families to be addressed, why didn't they make it gender-neutral like in other countries where such laws exist(especially in USA, which is the model/inspiration of DV Act in India. Right now a man cannot get relief under DV Act even if he is tormented in a family/domestic relation).

DV Act is just one law which is breaking Indian families because of their wrongful/fraudulent misuse by unscrupulous wives/her advisors. The other laws which are being misused are IPC 498a, Dowry Prohibition Act. For example , in case of IPC 498a there is only 2% conviction as per CSR study report, but all arrests are without investigation or evidence, just on the basis of an unverified complaint by a wife!. 1.2 lakh women have been arrested in the last 4 years alone, apart from over 1000 children and 18,000 senior citizens and a total of 5.34 lakh persons! have been arrested and traumatized by wrongful litigations for an average of 8 years!.

Families disintegrate without any chance of reconciliation when these kind of skewed family-breaking laws are misused, and that’s the same reason why we are protesting against them and spreading awareness to generate public opinion against these anti-family, harmony-wrecking, misuse-prone and draconic laws

Save Indian Family' activists' hold national meet

The 'Save Indian Family' activists' national meet to discuss strategies to intensify the campaign against misuse of gender biased laws, turned out to be more than strategy discussion full of fun and banter, followed by an awards function.


IT WAS the enigmatic ambience of Goa and the serene silence, decorated with the soothing sea waves of the beach that sparked the mood for the national meet of Goa for the 60 odd leaders and activists of the ’Save Indian Family’ campaign. Having had assembled for their proposed national meet, as reported by leading national dailies viz The Times of India, Deccan Chronicle to name a few, to discuss strategies to intensify their campaign against the misuse of gender biased laws, the meet turned out to be more than just strategy discussion as the event started with fun and banter followed by an awards function.

After introduction by the key members, the individual Non-Government Organisations (NGOs) working and sharing concerns with the Save Indian Family Foundation that had sent their representatives came forward to discuss their strengths and weaknesses. Those present were from

Save Indian Foundation, Bangalore and Nagpur,
Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai,
Save Family Foundation and MyNation Foundation Delhi,
Pati Pariwar Kalyan Samiti, Lucknow,
Protect Indian Family, Mumbai,
Sahana, Hyderabad,
Bharat Bachao Sangathan, Kolkata and
Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), Bangalore.

The NGOs as mentioned above and in the order presented their individual strengths and weaknesses. This discussion worked as the first step towards consolidation of strategies and brainstorming of steps to strengthen the movement in general. Newly upcoming Chattisgarh NGO had also sent its wishes and message via the representative of the Nagpur NGO.

Kumar Jahgirdar, the president of CRISP, discussed the vision and mission of CRISP and a collective goal was set to achieve regional expansion of CRISP in to new geographies. Members from national chapters expressed their solidarity and support by filling in the membership forms for CRISP. The event also marked the launch of the website of CRISP by the name of Crisp-India.

The discussion was followed by splitting the members present into five separate task groups of five -- seven members each on an average. Each of the task group was assigned a topic and was given 90 minutes to come up with a comprehensive strategy to be implemented in the concerned area of development. The areas of development were,

1. How to expand into new geographies and how to retain and grow the existing chapters?
2. Effective counselling techniques for newly joined victims who face abuse and approach the NGOs.
3. Effective lobbying techniques with the authorities and create the desired level of visibility for the Save Indian Family movement.
4. Calendar of events for the next one year.
5. More and potential areas of research.

After the stipulated time, the individual task groups came up with ideas/strategies in their respective areas and also the challenges currently faced in that area. The same were discussed, noted and the activists will be working on improvement of these areas to strengthen the movement and make the cause more audible and visible.

With so much of brainstorming happening since morning, the need for the day was a break, which came as a surprise event in the form of an award function mainly aimed to act as a motivating tonic to identify key contributions, both individual and group. Five categories of awards were designed and various nominations were identified and the final awards were compiled by a jury formed of the senior most leaders of the movement. The categories of nominations were:

Lifetime achievement award – This award went to the oldest member of the movement who has been a victim and has been raising voice against this misuse in the Internet since the past nine years.
Best chapter award – This award went to the Nagpur NGO, which has emerged as the fastest growing chapter by utilising all the knowledge that is available and converted the same in to an executable plan and achieved some wonderful results in a very short span of time.

Most outstanding contribution – This award went to the vociferous fighter of the Save Indian Family Campaign, which has written the bible for the victims of the abuse in the form of the “498a Survival Kit.”

Best fight back strategy – This award went to the commando, who was instrumental in getting justice to one of those unfortunate 56,000 married men who commit suicide. This relates back to the suicide by Pushkar Singh of Lucknow being unable to bear the torture of a false case against him of dowry harassment by his wife and in- laws. Inspite of the suicide note left behind, clearly accusing his wife and in-laws of his suicide, as the authorities were restraining themselves in taking action, our commando mobilised and motivated 35 members from Delhi and UP to raise voice against the grave injustice and ensure restoration of faith in the criminal justice system.

Influencing the authorities - This award went to our legal stalwarts team, the Chennai NGO for being successfully instrumental in bringing to task 11 police officers ranging from a head constable, right up to the dy comm of police for negligence of duty and violation of human rights principles. They have been summoned by the National Human Rights Commission. Normally such a huge number of officers are summoned in case of communal riots. But this is the first time that in an individual case does one get to see such an attempt to repair miscarriage of justice.
Having, thus, completed the awards ceremony, the team headed towards dinner and happy hours of informal mingling and experience sharing and further discussions of improvement areas and finally parted for the day.

The second day of the meet was more of a culmination than a continuation, which started with rejuvenation and ended with celebration on the end of a successful meet. It has been decided that the annual meet continue for reviewing the strategies and identifying rooms of improvement.

National Meet of SIF activist on 27th-28th Sept at Goa to Stop the Legal Terrorism in India

Activists of the Save Indian Family campaign are meeting from all over India in Goa this weekend (27-28th Sept) to intensify agitation for amendment of dowry laws and domestic violence laws. Their demands are that dowry laws be made bailable and non-cognizable and domestic violence laws to be made gender neutral in larger interest of the society.

The spate of actions taken by the radical feminists in sidelining the moderates and wreaking havoc on innocent people in the name of Women Empowerment has already done a lot of damage to the Women Empowerment movement and its credibility. Save Indian Family Foundation does not want further deterioration of the society and hence hopes that the Govt. will do well by taking the above demands into consideration and not buckle under the pressure of radical feminists. It is high time that the media takes cudgels in presenting to the Society the bitter truth about radical feminists who
are calling the shots.

It is to be noted that the Govt. made several laws to tackle dowry menace. It all started in 1961, with the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961. Then Section 498A, Indian Penal Code (45 of 1860) in 1983 and the very recent Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, passed in 2006. Quintessentially all of the above three try to achieve the same objective and unfortunately enough none is successful so far as now, these radical feminists want some more laws as they continue to ignore the extravagant marriages and inaction of dowry prohibition officers in curbing the dowry menace.

It is to be noted that Women's organizations have got and are still getting millions of dollars from the Govt. and from International agencies to implement stringent anti-male, laws ultra-vires the Indian Constitution for fighting against dowry. And now that they have got used to it, if the dowry menace is eliminated with proper implementation of the existing laws, then they will not get the funds and attention. So, they go soft on dowry exchange during marriages and yet cry for more laws so that men and their families can be harassed and money can be extorted from them.
It is worthwhile to be noted here that nowadays, women do not hesitate in filing 4-5 civil and criminal lawsuits for the same allegations on their husbands, blatantly and out rightly violating Article 20 of the Indian Constitution which clearly says that no person can be tried / punished twice for the same offense. The cases filed include lawsuits under Dowry Prohibition Act, then another under section 498A of the IPC. Then one more under Domestic Violence Act and one more under maintenance and so on and so forth.

But now Indian men have learned to fight and are giving stiff resistance to such wild practices and will continue to do so till the laws are not amended and the perpetrators of this misuse, aptly termed by the Honorable Supreme Court of India as Legal Terrorism, are not brought to task. It is interesting to note that in India, terrorists and hooligans are roaming freely and the Govt. does not want to bring back TADA / POTA but the same Govt. continues with arbitrary arrests of the 1,20,000 women in last 4 years without any trial or investigation and the same is also justified by radical feminist organizations. Such practices can only be ridiculed at best and termed as grave mockery by the Govt. taking potshots at the people's
patience.

Save Indian Family Foundation regrets to mention that in spite of nationwide awareness campaigns launched by it since the last three years and bringing this to the notice of the Govt. about the rampant misuse, still if the Govt. continues to ignore, the people will have no choice but to take the law in their own hands losing complete faith on the law of the land.

It is so pathetic that the Govt. is funding radical feminist organizations, which are no way different from any radical fundamentalist organizations so far as their intolerance is concerned as it is evident from the silence of these radicals on the arrests of 1,20,000 women.

It is also a sad reality that the government is completely ignoring the suicides of Indian men to the tune of close to 80,000 a year with married men forming a sizeable chunk of it to the tune of 56,000 (on average) a year.

*We wonder whose life is in more danger in the country: Men or Women.*

· As per the National Crime Records Bureau data of *2005*:

o Married Men Suicides = *52000* vs. Married Women Suicides = *28000*

· As per the National Crime Records Bureau data of *2006*:

o Married Men Suicides = *55452* vs. Married Women Suicides = *29869*

· For a wife, even adultery is not a crime (it is a rewarding option and free money earning business for the whole life), but for a husband even an allegation of *"**Name-calling**"* is a crime and not only the man, but his mother/sister/age-old father can also be put behind the bars for this 'crime' under IPC 498A or DV act.

The Chairperson of the National Commission for Women (NCW), Dr. Girija Vyas had enough time to take steps to eradicate the social evil called dowry exchange. Although the NCW has proposed multiple laws but sadly enough none are ever implemented in true spirit. If the dowry practice still exists, then it is a complete failure of the NCW and Girija Vyas and for that Save Indian Family Foundation demands resignation of Dr. Vyas and closure of the NCW.

More recently we had a very unfortunate judgment from the Honorable Supreme Court as well, wherein the Supreme Court granted apology to a husband who accepted taking dowry. When the law has clearly laid down that both giving and taking dowry is a crime, why were the criminals not punished and let go off with an apology? Does this not mean that the law of the land has no meaning and has been only enacted to terrorize innocent citizens and extort their hard earned money from them?

*With an ending note Save Indian Family Foundation likes to remind the civil society as well of its duty to raise voice against the injustice going on under the barb and paradoxical veil of Women Empowerment and to the Govt. to make family an issue in the coming elections. And that these laws need to be replaced by some more benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure women their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, while at the same time not forgetting the rights of the men.*

*For more details contact : 9342853272/9845143274/9810611534*

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*Review Gender Biased LAW to Promote Family Harmony and Stop Legal Terrorism*

- *Proposed Domestic Harmony Act , 2005 ( For review)

- *NCW's recommendations to address "unnatural deaths" of married women
are Unreasonable

- *Maintenance for live-in partner? or Legal Extrotion?

- *Woman throws acid on husband-Kolkata -Cities-The Times of India

- *NCW'S False/fabricated Claim exposed regarding 70% women denied
maintance on alleged adultrity ground in CRPc125.

- *STOP Women Sexual Harassment!!

Women - the greatest mystery

**Girl' is the only thing about which brain uses maximum resource but comes
with no output.*

Rahul was waiting for his love ...
"30 minutes late!!" his brain shouted at him, "Last time you were 5 mins
late and she had literally gobbled u up ... remember??"

"Yeah yeah", he said to his brain, "You know her ... all moody and stuff
.... Oh there she is"

"Scold her OK?" his brain adviced.

"OK I will try"

Sweet Ramya comes with the cutest smile and says "I'm sorry honey ... I was
shopping for shoes ... totally forgot about you"

"What if you had said that line buddy?" shouted his brain ... "she would
have had a nervous breakdown"

Rahul ignored his brain ... "Its OK honey ... it's only half an hour ...
no problem"

She smiled once again... held his hand and asked "Hope you remember what
occasion is today"

"OMG!!!" thought Rahul ....

"Brain ... search database for reminders, anniversaries, silly
anniversaries, birthdays and birthdays of people I don't care about"

Brain got into action ... he started delegating work to different parts ...
parallel processing .. Multiple search .......... complete memory scan.

Ramya stared at Rahul.... "Hello!! u have been staring at me for 2 minutes
now ... u OK?"

"Huh!!!" he said, "Oh ... nothing's wrong ... was lost in thought"

"No records found", said the brain ...

"Damn!!" thought Rahul

"So what say ... how do we celebrate this day?" she asked.

Rahul is all confused ... "Ask her ...dumbo?" Said the brain

"OK OK ...stop pushing me"

"Honey ... U know my lousy memory ... I guess I can't recall what today
is"

"WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" she shouted ... and started crying.

"How could you forget!!? ..... It's my doggy's birthday"

"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

A moment of silence.

His entire brain staff was laughing at him.

Rahul was dumbfounded.
"What the hell am I supposed to do know?" he asked his brain.

"Damage control sequence initialized ... don't worry our specialist will
comeback with the perfect line to make everything all right"

"Better do it fast ...Brainy"

The brain was working at 90% capacity.... gathering and analyzing all data
on 'How to handle women?'

Finally an answer was computed and communicated to Rahul.

He looked up to her, and said "Of Course I remember your doggy's bday ...
how can I forget that sweet mutt's special day"

She looked up with utter surprise...
"HUH!!!!!!! ....... Doggy is the name of my cat you jerk"

She stood up angrily and left.
Rahul and his brain were left there clueless....

"Ah! Screw u guys... I'm going home", said his brain and left.